Finding the right personality match can be key in order to sustain a long term relationship. This is what we help with at Goodwizz.com. After an initial personality match, games are proposed so that people can interact in the best possible way and get to know each other. Offra Gernstein explains below how different types of personality can influence the relationship behaviour. Interesting articleabout five types of lovers: The Pursuer-Distancer, the Disengaged, the Operatic, the Cohesive-Individuated and the Traditional marriages. More details on http://www.relationshipmatters.com.
The magic of successful couples has always intrigued us and fascinated researchers. Many myths, theories, speculations and personal opinions have been put forth to answer the question, "What makes for a blissful union between mates?" The search for the elusive formula gets seasoned with ongoing new research findings to aid us in creating the cherished relationship we crave.Traditionally, marriage satisfaction research focused on what causes couples distress that interferes with their blissful connection. More recent studies have centered on identifying the elements that help married people create and maintain a happy and satisfying union.
University of Virginia Professor E. Mavis Hetherington identified in her marriage study five types of marriages: The Pursuer-Distancer, the Disengaged, the Operatic, the Cohesive-Individuated and the Traditional marriages."The Cohesive-Individuated marriages are the yuppie and feminist ideal, characterized by equity, respect, warmth, and mutual support, but also by both partners retaining the autonomy to pursue their own goals and to have their own friends".
Monmouth University Professor Gary Lewandowski's research expounds on the notion that mutual enrichments lead to a more satisfactory relationship. His research supports previous findings that sharing experiences, information and ideas bonds couples not only through new experiences, but also through new friends, sharing news and even through casual talks.Lewandowski added the concept of contributing to your partner's "self-expansion" as a crucial element to happiness.Conversing well and enhancing each other's interest in life is paramount in healthy relationships.
A woman I know was concerned that during her years of staying at home and caring for the children she may lose the interest of her very dynamic husband who was absorbed in a stimulating profession. She decided to find the time each day to read the paper, listen to the radio and learn something new so she could maintain her partner's interest and be equally engaging.Being mindful of resisting inertia and maintaining intellectual and experiential stimulation within the relationship is essential to keeping the "spark" alive. Allowing monotony and overwhelming life tasks to absorb your mind and heart is risky to the vitality of your relationship
Offra Gerstein, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist in private practice in Santa Cruz for more than 25 years. Her website is www.relationshipmatters.com. Contact her at 476-7666.
